We are going to go through 5 strategies that can help you to tackle some of the negative effects of perfectionism:
1. Challenge Your Perfectionism Behavior:
So I want you to think about what are some of the things that you MUST do "perfectly" eg. surgical skin close. Examples. -- for Alex, it would spelling and grammar, for ME it is at the gym if they say 12 reps I do 12 reps and die…
Exercise: Write down why you believe that this activity must be perfect? What is the impact if you do or don't??
Do you resist delegating tasks to a co-worker because you don't trust their ability which means that you stay back late?
Pro Tip: How can you overcome them? Only challenge one perfectionist behavior at a time. Otherwise, you may feel overwhelmed. One small change can have a huge impact.
2. Set Realistic Goals:
Set realistic goals. Think about your most important life and career goals. Then, break them down into smaller monthly or yearly...
It is important to take stock on where we are at now, and reflect on the goals you set this year or the project that you wanted to achieve or where you wanted your career, family or love life, health and well being to be at this point.
So write down a list of what it was that you wanted to achieve this year!
Was it a health goal, was it a fitness goal, was it something you wanted to learn about, was it something you wanted to do with your family, was it a morning routine you wanted to start. Was it starting meditation or reading a book each evening.
What has been a nagging thing that you wanted to achieve or take action on .. that you just didn't?
The goal here is to gain self awareness of the things that you wanted to achieve, so that you can either say that you have ticked it off or you did not do it. Remember it is not about making yourself feel bad or disappointed, it is more about being able to move forward with more clarity.
If you still...
Confidence comes from within, it comes from the decisions you make and the actions you take. You need to develop what is known as a growth mindset, which will bolster the belief that you can be, and are, confident.
First step: FOCUS
The first step is to change your focus – because “Where you focus is where you will end up”
Instead of getting hung up on all the ways something could go wrong, focus on all the ways it could go RIGHT. Think about how you’re going to nail your next exam, consults, surgery or presentation and how it will feel to walk away after knowing that you smashed it.
What you focus on becomes your reality – and that includes what you focus on within your own mind. Replace negative words with positive ones and start seeing the bright side of situations. By changing your focus, internally and externally, you’re changing your state. And by changing your state, you’ll change your life.