If you are experiencing conflict with a colleague and you would like to address it. So you are the target or involved in conflict with another person in the team.
Carefully review the situation, evaluate what has happened before you take actions. Ask yourself is this behavior normal from this person or is this person just having a bad day? If it's typical behaviour it might be time to do something about it, which we covered in the live training.
Here I want to focus on if it is out of character. Who has heard of the Iceberg effect? It is used to explain the concept that 20% of the iceberg you can see and 80% is under the water. So this means that what you see in terms of verbal and non-verbal communication is influenced by what is happening below the surface eg. financial issues, sick loved ones, time constraints, trying to manage multiple people’s expectations.
So if it is out of character for this person then you can choose to give them the...
It is important to take stock on where we are at now, and reflect on the goals you set this year or the project that you wanted to achieve or where you wanted your career, family or love life, health and well being to be at this point.
So write down a list of what it was that you wanted to achieve this year!
Was it a health goal, was it a fitness goal, was it something you wanted to learn about, was it something you wanted to do with your family, was it a morning routine you wanted to start. Was it starting meditation or reading a book each evening.
What has been a nagging thing that you wanted to achieve or take action on .. that you just didn't?
The goal here is to gain self awareness of the things that you wanted to achieve, so that you can either say that you have ticked it off or you did not do it. Remember it is not about making yourself feel bad or disappointed, it is more about being able to move forward with more clarity.
If you still...
Confidence comes from within, it comes from the decisions you make and the actions you take. You need to develop what is known as a growth mindset, which will bolster the belief that you can be, and are, confident.
First step: FOCUS
The first step is to change your focus – because “Where you focus is where you will end up”
Instead of getting hung up on all the ways something could go wrong, focus on all the ways it could go RIGHT. Think about how you’re going to nail your next exam, consults, surgery or presentation and how it will feel to walk away after knowing that you smashed it.
What you focus on becomes your reality – and that includes what you focus on within your own mind. Replace negative words with positive ones and start seeing the bright side of situations. By changing your focus, internally and externally, you’re changing your state. And by changing your state, you’ll change your life.
In our recent Live Cast we talked about courage and how to step into opportunities instead of living with the regret of choosing to stay safe. We all need to be brave at times. But let’s face it, acting bravely is easier said than done. It requires rising above our evolutionary response to protect ourselves from pain, and avoiding the risk of losing something we value—like our pride, our status in our job or the approval of our friends or our colleagues.
With courage, all things are possible. You become unstoppable. With courage, you are living from your heart and moving forward in a way that is authentic for you. Boosting our courage isn’t about eradicating our fear; it’s such a primal, instinctive response that this isn’t a realistic goal. Instead, it’s about learning how to respond to our fear in a healthy way.
Face up to the fear!
A courageous life sounds great, doesn’t it? Why, then, aren’t more of us living like...
WHAT IS RESILIENCE?
Resilience is the ability to bounce back from problems and setbacks or when things don't go as planned. It's a quality that we all possess to some degree, but some of us can draw on it more easily than others can or can take bigger knocks or more knocks than others can. Resilience is important because it keeps us getting back up on our feet and getting back on track after we hit a challenge until we finally reach our goals, it allows us to deal with difficult situations, and it helps us to grow by encouraging us to look at the positives and to manage stress.
However, it's not about trying to carry on regardless of how we feel, and it's not about being superhuman! Instead, it's about understanding why we feel the way we do, and developing strategies to help us deal with situations more effectively.
It’s very hard to beat someone who keeps getting back up. What makes them different from another person who cannot is just the strategies they use. The situation...